Weddings are all about the bride. But you can’t tell that to a 6-year-old. If your child has been tapped as the ring bearer or flower girl, you have to make the upcoming wedding all about their special job. Make sure your children know a thing or two about weddings before they skip down the aisle – you can find plenty of coloring and activity books with a wedding theme. Show them pictures of their fancy new boys suit or show-stopping flower girls dress, and explain they’re getting brand-new outfits because their role in the wedding is a really big deal! Then, consider using a few of these tips and tricks to make sure they get down that aisle in one piece.
1. Movie magic
Let the magic of animated movies get your kids pumped up for the special day! Lots of classic children’s movies end with a wedding. Have a few family movie nights to get your kids into the wedding spirit.
2. The world is your runway
Flower girls and ring bearers are often not present at the rehearsal, but they should do a few practice runs before the wedding. Find out what tune the bride is using for her march, so you can play it while your little one practices their strut down the aisle. Be generous with praise for walking at the right speed!
3. Help your kids help you
They’ll probably stay up late the night of the reception, so see to it that they get a nice long nap beforehand. Once you’re getting close to the ceremony, a little candy bribe for good behavior won’t go amiss. (Make sure it’s a hard candy – you don’t want anything that melts and ruins a flower girl’s dress or the ring boy’s suit!)
4. Familiar faces
On the big day, point out to your child where you’ll be sitting, so they know where to look if they need some support. Remind them of the other familiar faces that they’ll see in the audience – aunts, uncles, and grandparents. They should have a whole team of cheerleaders there to keep them cool, calm and collected.
5. Keep calm and party on
Right before the wedding, things can get a little chaotic. Make sure whoever’s in charge of the bridal party can give your child a toy or a game to keep them distracted. You don’t want your child to pick up on everyone else’s stressful cues.
If they start to get nervous the big day, remind them of what’s happening at the reception. They just have to be brave a little while longer! Then comes the dancing, the taking off of fancy shoes, and a giant piece cake.